If you are serious about your journey to better and more fulfilling sex, then you have to read this article. So many people who want to get better in bed get tripped up, confused, read bad advice or have a few bad experiences that prevent them from becoming a true Bad Girl in the bedroom. Below are the 6 biggest secrets that prevent you from reaching your sexual potential.
1. HE’S JUST AS NERVOUS AS YOU
If you aren’t that sexually experienced around your man, you may be feeling nervous or even a little embarrassed when it comes to getting intimate with him. This is completely normal. It goes away with time and experience. If you are feeling nervous when getting intimate with your man, then chances are that he feels exactly the same as you! Trust me, I am a guy writing this after all. I have talked to many of my guy friends and they have all said the same thing. They get just as nervous, sometimes even more nervous when getting intimate with a girl they don’t know that well. So if you are feeling nervous at the thought of trying something new with a guy, don’t worry. It’s completely natural. Provided what you are doing is safe, you just need to keep going and try to ignore your nerves.
2. YOU HAVE TO BREAK A FEW EGGS…
To make an omelette. When learning anything new, you are inevitably going to make some mistakes, whether it’s learning to drive, learning to swim or learning how to have incredible sex. So just like in the first point, “He’s Just As Nervous As You”, the key is to Accept the fact that mistakes will happen. When you do happen to do something that your man doesn’t enjoy or even finds a little weird, the best way of dealing with it is to NOT dwell on it and keep moving forward. It’s the same as when you are learning to drive. When you forget to indicate when turning or you accidentally run a STOP sign, don’t keep focusing on it! The only thing you need to do is to recognize that you made a small mistake and that you should avoid doing it in the future. So if you realize that your man doesn’t enjoy it when you play with his balls, don’t freak out, just remember it for in future. It’s that simple! (Nearly all guys actually love it when you play with their balls!)
3. DON’T BE ASHAMED ABOUT YOUR FANTASIES AND FETISHES
If you have ever read Nancy Friday’s book ‘My Secret Garden’ or even the Reader’s Fantasy section of the Bad Girls Bible, you’ll notice that everyone has different kinks, fantasies and fetishes. It’s completely normal! Your man will have them too. There’s nothing weird about the ‘Rape Fantasy’ or getting turned on by seemingly ‘strange’ things. Once you come to terms with the fact that everyone these thoughts, you’ll find that you are a lot more comfortable with your sexuality.
4. WEIRD SEX DOES NOT EQUAL GOOD SEX
A lot of the advice and information that you’ll read here is helpful and practical. But, you’ll also find some things in here that seem quite ‘out there’ or even a little bit weird to you. Often people read about some sex position like the Lotus position that looks quite hard to perform. They immediately believe that because it’s hard to perform, it must be better. Or provide more pleasure. This usually is not the case. You’ll find that some of the most basic positions are also the most popular AND pleasurable. Doggy-style, Missionary and the Deckchair are all very easy-to-preform and most people who try them, really enjoy them too. So just to be clear: More complicated does not mean more pleasure! The only reason that we included these complicated positions was for completeness.
5. PORN IS ONE BIG LIE!
Watching porn is not a big deal. Through watching it, you might learn some new positions. But don’t expect these positions to be enjoyable for either you or your man. 99% of porn is a complete lie.
6. ANYONE CAN BECOME A SEX SUPERSTAR
Anyone can become a sex goddess. All it takes is a little work. Some people believe that they have to be ‘naturally gifted’ with women or that: You either have it or you don’t have it. This just isn’t true!