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The Build Up & Blow Job Foreplay

Chapter 2: 
The Build Up & Blow Job Foreplay

On this page, you’re going to learn powerful tips to build up to your blow job, AND you’re going to learn 19 wonderful, orgasm inducing blow job tips that will make your man’s eyes roll back into his head with pleasure.

Building Up To Your BJ – Teasing & Tantalizing Your Man

Some men are ready and eager for sex or a blow job 24/7. But this isn’t true for all of them. In fact, some guys take a lot of coaxing just to turn them on and get them in the mood, and as your man ages, this becomes more and more of an issue.

Here are a few different ideas you should use to get him worked up before you even get physical with him:
    • Sexy Selfies – Sending your man a sexy selfie while he is at work or is in the gym is the perfect way to turn him on and get him ready for fun times ahead. Using an app like Snapchat is best if you don’t want to have to worry about the photos being stored on your phone. 
    • Dirty Texts & Sexting – While your man is at work or is just out of the house, try sending him some dirty texts, letting him know about what’s on your mind and what you are planning for later. It can be something filthy like, “I can wait to feel you explode in my mouth tonight.” Or it can be something a little more reserved like, “Can’t wait to see you later…and my lips can’t wait either ;)” Or you can describe in detail the blow job tip you’ve just learned and are going to perform on him.
    • Out & About – If you are both out in public together or at a dinner party where you can’t possibly be intimate, then it’s the perfect time to lean across and whisper something in his ear to get him thinking about what you’ve got planned for later. 
A General Guideline For Tantalizing Him – Often guys get turned on by a lot of things that many women don’t find arousing, so keep this in mind when you are coming up with your own ideas and tactics to tease him and build up to a blow job.

This explains why your guy may love seeing a picture of you naked, even though seeing a snap of him naked doesn’t do much for you. It also explains why you might get crazy horny when reading erotica, while it might put your man to sleep. In other words; just because something turns you on, it doesn’t mean it will turn him on, and vice-versa.


Fellatio Foreplay

It may be surprising to hear, but men love foreplay to be drawn out significantly longer more than most women think. So, while giving him a quickie BJ can be super hot for both of you (like say sneaking  away for a few minutes at a party), you’ll find that a slow, teasing build up is going to result in your man blowing a bigger load…and a bigger smile on his face. This is probably the most powerful, but also the most overlooked blow job tip you can learn. 

With this in mind, here are a bunch of great “fellatio foreplay” tips that you can use before giving your man head:

1. Hand Massage – This one is probably the easiest to get right. While you are kissing him or just talking to him or while you’re just physically close to him, put your hand on his crotch. So your hand should be resting on his briefs or his trousers. To make it smooth, start by first placing your hand on his leg and moving it up from there. Then just softly start massaging his penis and testicles outside of his trousers/briefs. It’s as simple as softly running your hands over this area, but you can also get a little more aggressive by softly grabbing and squeezing his cock and balls and then releasing the pressure. After massaging him for a few minutes, help him take off his trousers and briefs. Then just keep doing what you were doing, running your hands over his manhood. If you like, you can also softly trace your fingers up and down his dick and around his balls.

2. Talking To Him On Your Knees – Another great blow job tip to build up to giving your man head is talking to your man while on your knees. You can start off with something simple like, “So what do you want me to do now, baby?” while holding his penis in your hands…you can be sure that he’s going to ask you to give him a blow job. As you become more confident and see his enthusiasm, you can start expanding your dirty talking, by
  • Telling him how much you are enjoying giving him oral sex.
  • That you can’t wait to taste his cum.
  • How giving him a blow job turns you on.
3. So Close – Another blow job tip you can do to build up to your blow job is to work around his manhood first. So instead of just taking him into your mouth and giving him a blow job, you could:
  • Kiss around his crotch and groin. 
  • Gently massage his balls using your tongue. 
  • Softly “tickle” his testicles with the tips of your fingers. 
4. The Kiss Trail – A red hot blow job tip that allows you to move smoothly from kissing your husband to taking him in your mouth is to work slowly down from his lips to his penis by kissing your way down. So you can move from his lips to his neck to his chest to his stomach until your reach his groin area. Of course, this works way better if he is naked.

Now let’s learn what blow job tips will drive your man wild…

~Flick The Frenulum

For many men, the most sensitive spot on their penis is their frenulum. The frenulum is the underside of the tip of their penis, where the glans joins his shaft.

An intensely pleasurable blow job tip that you can use on him is to use the tip of your tongue to apply a gentle flicking motion to it. While you are naturally going to stimulate his frenulum while sucking him or just licking his penis, this technique is different as you will be focusing all your stimulation on a very specific point on his penis.

Flicking his frenulum can be the perfect way to start off your blow jobs before taking his entire dick in your mouth. You can flick it up-and-down, side-to-side, in circles or by doing a combination of all three.

Bear in mind that if your man has been circumcised, there is a chance that his frenulum has been removed.

~Kiss, Kiss

Another great way to start off your blow job is by kissing his cock all over. Kissing is great if you like taking things slowly and teasing your man.

You can kiss his penis any way you want, but it will be a lot easier when you use your hand to hold it in place while you kiss it. There are multiple different ways to kiss his penis, from giving him small, quick ‘pecks’, to giving him longer, more intense kisses. He’ll especially love it if you give him extra wet, sloppy kisses. 

Don’t be surprised if you can see precum or semen dripping from his cock at this stage.

Kissing him is a fabulous way to pull back if you feel him getting close to climaxing and want him to wait a little longer before reaching orgasm. It will also give your jaw a rest if you find it getting tired from having him in your mouth.

~The Thing With Teeth

You already know how sensitive your boyfriend’s penis is, especially the underside of head (aka the glans). For pleasuring it, this is obviously a good thing… but if you apply too much pressure, or you are too rough with it, then you’re going to hurt your man. It’s the same for your clit and vagina if you are masturbating or your man is going down on you.

Just imagine how sore it would be if your boyfriend had nails that were constantly catching on you…or worse, can you imagine how painful it would be if he started using his teeth on you as he was licking you out and performing cunnilingus. It would be agony!

The only mandatory blow job tip when giving your man oral sex is that you absolutely must not use your teeth on him. It can completely ruin an otherwise fantastic BJ. But what if he is particularly well endowed…or you have a small mouth?
In situations like this, it can be almost impossible to avoid using your teeth as you take him into your mouth. The first thing you can do is to wrap your lips around your teeth so that your lips act as a soft barrier. The second thing is focusing on techniques where you don’t take him into your mouth or by giving him a hand job.

Side note: There is a small percentage of men that enjoy it when you use your teeth and apply a tiny bit of pressure on his penis, using an almost featherlight touch on him. My advice is never to try this UNTIL your man mentions it himself.

~Blowing Him

Many women are so anxious at the thought of giving head to their man, that they just get straight to it with little or no build up and with no teasing. It’s like they are focused only on making him ejaculate and getting that sperm out of him. Gently teasing your man and building up the sexual tension, so that he is practically begging you to blow him is vital if you want to take your blow jobs from good to great.

One great way to amp up the sexual tension and have him squirming in delight is to lick him gently, making sure to use lots of saliva and then blow on the wet patch you’ve created. Blowing on a wet patch creates a cooling sensation that is great for teasing your man and making him moan with pleasure. Try doing this for about a minute before you take him into your mouth.

The Don’ts Of Good Blow Jobs

I hope that from reading this chapter of the Blow Job Guide that you see just how easy it can be to give your man a great blow job. There are a vast number of different blow job tips you can use to give him intense pleasure. But before you go out and start using these blow job tips, there are a few vital aspects of blow jobs that you should know to ensure that you don’t do anything that will hinder your oral sex skills or lessen the pleasure you give your man…
    • Teeth – I’ve already mentioned the problem with accidentally using your teeth earlier in this article.
    • Expecting Payback – In the ideal world, every partner would selflessly provide their loved one with endless pleasure, never asking for anything in return. Of course, this a little unrealistic and unworkable in the real world. However, you should never see love making (or blow jobs!) as something you only do in order receive an equal amount of pleasure in return. Sex is not a tit-for-tat exercise.
    • To Control – Using sex as a weapon and method for controlling your man is a recipe for disaster. If you start withholding sex to try to get your husband to do something, then both of you are going to develop a negative attitude towards all things sex very quickly. Equally, promising to give him a blow job only if he does this or that is going to foster an unhealthy situation for your sex life. Of course, this advice does not apply to roleplaying scenarios in which you try to “break” your man or get him to give up a secret by teasing and tantalizing him.
    • Lack Of Variation – An obvious, but often forgotten blow job “don’t” is a lack of variation. Just like performing the same tasks over and over at the office make for a dull, boring workday, this is also the case for your sex life. In fact studies have shown that while both men and women enjoy new sexual experiences, men have a higher preference for new and exciting sexual stimulation, so why not give it to him! In other words, if you just use the same two techniques on your man every Saturday night, then he’s going to stop looking forward to it. The key is using enough variation in your oral sex repertoire to keep him on his toes. However, too much variation can be a bad thing too…
    • Too Much Variation! – Everyday you’re learning more and more sex tips to try on your man to give him powerful orgasms. You may think that you should try something completely new on him every day while forgetting about the blow job tips that you’ve previously used to pleasure him. Too much variation is NOT a good strategy if you want to have a fulfilling sex life. It’s like redecorating your house every six months and throwing out all the furniture and decorations that you like along with the furniture and decorations you don’t like. But why throw out what you do like? Of course, you should keep the stuff you like. Make sure to try new blow job ideas, but don’t forget about the blow job tips that are already working great.
Let’s get started on Chapter 3 of the Blow Job Guide, where you’ll learn 31 orgasm inducing blow job techniques.

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