The Basic Building Blocks To A Breathtaking Blow Job
Communication & Preferences
While many in the animal kingdom engage in oral sex…bears, bats, bonobo monkeys, flying foxes, wolves, ground squirrels, and Tibetan macaques to name a few, they can’t communicate their preference as effectively as you and your man can. Effective communication will help you to quickly figure out what techniques your man adores and which ones he find so-so.
- Some guys love it when you deep throat them, don’t care for it at all.
- Some guys love the idea of you swallowing their load while others are turned off by it.
- Some guys fantasize about giving you a facial, but others find it pointless.
- Some guys may adore you fondling their testicles during oral sex, while others hate it.
The point I am trying to make is that your husband is going to adore some of the techniques from this Blow Job Guide while he isn’t going to get much from other techniques and ideas. The key is talking to your man and learning his preferences.
This way you can quickly figure out which techniques give him most pleasure and work best on your man. This guide on sexual communication will help you and your man better communicate your preferences.
But communication isn’t just about accommodating his desires, it’s about yours too. According to one study, up to half of women between 16 and 25 have felt pressured into giving their man a blow job and in another study, 12% of young adult women had repeatedly engaged in oral sex and other sexual practices they disliked because their partner insisted on it. This isn’t right or fair and it certainly doesn’t make for a great relationship. If you aren’t comfortable with doing something, then it’s important your man understands and respects this.
The Golden Technique – Enthusiasm
There is an encyclopedia of knowledge here on how to give your man a perfect blow job, and you may be wondering what is the “best technique” that you can use on him to blow his mind.
The number one technique is actually an attitude. It’s…
Enthusiasm is by far the most powerful thing you can incorporate into you blow job skills AND sex life. Think about this for a minute…
Have you ever been merely going through the motions with a guy, where he seemed almost uninterested and unenthusiastic about getting it on. It’s a real turn off and can make you feel very unsexy.
On the other hand, have you ever been with a guy who can’t keep his hands off you, who looks at you like a lion eyeing his prey and when you do jump into bed with him, he kisses you with intense passion and makes love to you with his entire being. It’s like he’s possessed and all he can think of is…you.
It’s incredibly arousing. He’s acting with complete enthusiasm and focus on you.
This is the power of enthusiasm.
When you give your boyfriend a blow job (or hand job or have sex with him) while being completely enthusiastic about it and totally focused on him, it’s going to massively arouse and turn him on.
So even if you’re aren’t totally sure about what you’re doing, just focus on being enthusiastic. You’ll be surprised at how much this enhances the experience for your man.
Building Blow Job Confidence
When you are thinking about the best ways to give a blow job to your man, you may be wondering about all these different blowjob positions and blowjob techniques as well as some of the more advanced stuff like giving your man deep throat. But there’s a catch:
None of this information is useful if you are acting super awkward and nervous when you give your man a blowjob. The same is true when it comes down to what sex positions you use.
It will be a lot more sexually satisfying for your husband if you appear confident and know what you are doing.
If you are not that sexually confident, then this can be quite tough for you. Below are some great blowjob tips that you should use to help build your sexual confidence.
Practice, Practice, Practice – If you want to get more confident at the prospect of going down on your man and learning how to give a good blow job, then you need to practice first. But not necessarily on your man. The easiest way is by using a dildo or by putting a condom on an unpeeled, smooth banana.
Just be careful not to push the dildo/banana too far down your throat to prevent choking!
Sexual Confidence Is Not Just About Sex – It can be confusing hearing someone talk about sexual confidence when trying to satisfy your man. Being sexually confident is not just about being good at sex. Instead, it’s about being comfortable with your body. They’ve even done studies that show that the more comfortable you are with your body, they more sexually satisfied both you and your husband will be.
So if you think that learning everything there is to now on how to give a good blow job is going to give you all the sexual confidence you need, then you are sadly missing an important point. To get sexually confidence, you need to get comfortable with who you are.
The truth is that nobody is perfect, and everyone has things about themselves that they wish were different, but can’t change.
To get more comfortable with who you are takes time. The important thing is to realize that most of the things you worry about are not that big of a deal.
Remember That He Is Probably Nervous Too – Don’t forget that guys often lack sexual confidence also. He may be worried about not getting an erection or even about losing his erection and his penis going soft. He also may be worried about cumming too quickly or not cumming at all. These are the main things that guys get nervous about, but there are tons more.
So the next time you give head to your man, remember…
He will often be too worried about his own performance to notice any mistakes or awkwardness.
Now that you have a solid foundation for giving your man a blow job confidently, it’s time to go to Chapter 2 to learn some techniques to make the start of your blow jobs extra satisfying.