Nobody likes having quiet or even silent sex. It’s a complete turn-off and a recipe for a very dull sex life.
That’s why I am going to teach you exactly how to talk dirty to your man with this Dirty Talking Guide so that you can build sexual tension, keep him deeply attracted to you and most importantly so that you have incredible sex.
The first step in learning how to talk dirty to your man is understanding why you should be doing it. Many women think using dirty talk phrases like the ones below is something that’s reserved for the bedroom only. It certainly does make sex more enjoyable, but it works in so many other areas of your relationship too.
Build Sexual Tension – By far the most powerful benefit of talking dirty to your guy is that it increases the sexual tension between you and him. Sexual tension is the core building block of having a passionate, enjoyable relationship with a guy you’re deeply attracted to.
Instead of always trying to rip each others clothes off, you’re both struggling to get aroused and get in the mood for sex. You may have even tried multiple “tricks” or “formulas” you learned online to get the spark back…but it didn’t work.
Sexual tension is the key.
It’s that magical feeling that keeps you thinking about each other, wanting to be physically close and gets you completely aroused when you’re in each others company. Talking dirty to your boyfriend or husband is the absolute best way to build sexual tension with him.
Intense Sex – Using dirty talk can enhance and intensify your sex life. You can scream and shout all sorts of filthy, dirty and nasty profanities while you and your man are getting it on. “Fuck me harder,” “I want to taste your cum,” “I love your cock!”
You can also use a bunch of other freaky and dirty talking phrases that make for more sensual, sexy love making. Whispering in his ear, “Don’t stop, I love it” or “You feel incredible” is going to work much differently, but it’s still going to have a great outcome.
Keep Him Thinking About You – Building sexual tension with your man is one obvious benefit to using the dirty talking phrases in this guide. An additional benefit is that it will keep him thinking of you.
There’s nothing worse than when your man travels for work, is posted abroad, or he has an overly friendly and flirty female co-worker. Using the right kind of dirty talk with him will keep him constantly thinking about you, fantasizing about when he’s next going to see you and eagerly awaiting the next time you call or message him.
When you combine building sexual tension, keeping your man thinking about you and having intense sex, you can probably see just how beneficial talking dirty can be for your relationship.
Now that we have discussed why you need to talk dirty to your man, it’s time to learn how to do it.
1. Start In The Shallow End Of The Pool – If you suddenly start talking dirty to your man and are being extremely explicit, then there is a chance that he is going to get a little freaked out, especially if it’s the last thing that he’d normally expect from you.
It’s a much better idea to slowly introduce dirty talk that is not too extreme or ‘out there’ or explicit. Start slowly and build up to the more intense stuff.
2. Begin In The Bedroom – You’ll also find that it’s easiest and most natural to introduce dirty talk in the bedroom or when you are both alone. This way there is far less pressure.
Once you get comfortable talking dirty to your man in private, then start experimenting elsewhere. There’s nothing more exciting than seeing your man’s reaction when you lean in and whisper something filthy in his ear while you’re both in a crowded bar!
3. Tailor It To His Tastes – Almost every guy on the planet adores it when you talk dirty to him, but…it’s vital that you quickly learn what type of dirty talk phrases he likes most. Some guys prefer it when you are subtle and even polite with your dirty talk while others prefer it when you are super explicit.
So your man might love it when you say something simple and subtle like, “I can’t wait to get you home,” while you are both at church. Or he may prefer it when you use incredibly explicit dirty talk like, “I can’t wait till we get home so I can get down on my knees and feel your cock throbbing in my mouth.”
The key is finding out which type of dirty talk works best on your man by experimenting and trying it out in different ways, whether that’s sending him dirty text messages or just asking him some dirty, naughty questions.
4. Tailor It To Your Tastes – Of course you want to talk dirty in a way that turns your man on, this is obvious. But don’t forget that you need to be having fun too! So many women forget this.
If you feel uncomfortable using explicit language while talking dirty to your man or if you don’t like the idea of sending him dirty text messages, don’t feel that you have to! The key is making dirty talk work for you.
However, my advice is that you should try it out first before deciding whether or not it’s for you. It’s totally natural to feel a little nervous and even shy when you first start talking dirty to your man or when you try something new. As you do it more and more and see your husband’s positive reaction, your confidence will grow.
5. Don’t Force It! – The advice you read here is just that; it’s advice. It’s not a rigid law that works flawlessly every time or in every situation. Anyone that claims to have a secret, “magic formula” for talking dirty that works every time is lying.
So if you try a particular dirty talking technique a few times and never get the reaction you’re looking for, DON’T FEEL LIKE YOU HAVE TO KEEP DOING IT! Just forget about that technique and try something else. Through this process of trial and error, seeing what works for you and what doesn’t, you’ll slowly build up an encyclopedia of dirty talking phrases and strategies that will keep your man obsessed.
Some women find that the dirty talk that benefits them the most is the more explicit, “out there” kind while others find that very subtle dirty talk works best. Some excel at phone sex while others get better results from dirty text messages. They key is focusing on what works best for you.
6. The Great Dirty Talking Lie – There is a misconception that many women have when they are learning to talk dirty, it’s a trap I hope that you won’t fall into. Some women think that the best way to talk dirty is to be very explicit and aggressive.
As you read through this guide and try out some of the dirty talk phrases below, you’ll quickly realize that being subtle when you talk dirty to your man can often be more intense and powerful than being aggressive or explicit.
For example, while you are at a party with your man, leaning into him and softly whispering, “If theses people weren’t around, I would do terrible things to you,” and then giving him a cheeky grin before continuing your conversation like normal is crazy powerful. It’s going to blow your man away. He’ll be constantly wondering what you meant, what you are going to do to him after the party and, of course, he’s going to be very turned on too.
But you didn’t even say anything that outrageous. Keep this in mind as you experiment and learn to talk dirty and you will have one very happy man who is completely addicted to you and only you.
I have organized them into three groups…the first group is for building sexual tension, the second is for intensifying sex, and the third group will keep you man thinking about you and only you.
- If we weren’t at this party and these people weren’t around, I would jump you right now!
- What would you say if I asked you to go down on me right now?
- It might sound greedy, but I need your cock so bad right now.
- I’m going to drain your balls tonight!
- I wish I could control myself better around you, but when I see you, all I want to do is rip your clothes off and fuck you.
- I need to feel you inside me.
- Nobody has ever fucked me like you do.
- Even when you’re in a bad mood, I want to fuck you.
- I’m going to mark you as mine tonight.
- When we get home, I’m going to make you orgasm so hard.
- Knowing that you can completely overpower me makes me so crazy horny.
- What would you prefer I wear tonight, a thong or panties or nothing at all?
- Would you discipline me if I was acting bratty?
- I’m going to break you tonight.
- If these people weren’t here, I would be on my knees with your cock in my mouth.
- I can barely concentrate; I just keep thinking about you grabbing me and taking me.
- I’ve got a sexy surprise for you later… x (great when sent as a text message/IM/email)
- I wish we could just stay in bed and have sex all day long – Perfect when he is leaving your place to keep the sexual tension high.
- I love it when you wear tight clothes.
- Guess what color my panties are?
- We need to meet after work; this horniness is killing me.
- I just want to wrap my pussy around your cock.
- You look so fucking hot in the morning.
- I wore these panties just for you.
- I feel so horny and helpless when you dominate me.
- Tonight is going to be a lot of fun 😉 (Perfect as a message)
- If you play your cards right, you’ve got some pleasure/fun coming your way.
- Stop looking at me like that, it’s making me wet.
- Tonight we’re going to do what I want to do. But don’t worry, it’s going to be a lot of fun!
- I’m going to make you scream and shout tonight!
- It’s a pity we’re not in bed right now because all I can think of is feeling your body on mine.
- I just want to be your little fuck doll…
- I want to feel your cock in my mouth.
- I love it when you fuck me like a slut.
- Fuck me like you mean it!
- I don’t want to feel my face or hands after you’re done with me.
- I want to taste your cum.
- Making you cum hard is my number one priority right now.
- Taste me.
- I don’t want to be able to walk tomorrow so fuck me harder.
- Degrade me.
- Use me.
- Don’t stop.
- Fuck me like your own me.
- You’re going to make me cum.
- I love your dick.
- Fuck my cunt.
- Fill me up.
- I want your cum.
- I want to fall asleep with you inside me.
- Grab my breasts and squeeze my nipples.
- I’ve been really bad and need to be punished.
- You’re not leaving here until I have your cum in my mouth.
- Deeper! (then pull him deeper with your arms and legs)
- I want to hear you scream my name when you cum.
- You like how I fuck you?
- Pull my hair and slap me.
- Please fuck me harder daddy.
- Make me your bitch.
- Cum for me.
- I feel so small when you wrap your arms around me…I miss this so much.
- Sometimes my legs get weak when you kiss me.
- Just thinking about you makes me so dam wet!
- I miss your cock.
- If we could only have sex in one position for the rest of our lives, what would it be?
- I masturbated about you last night.
- Still feeling sore after last night 🙂
- I think you’re the only guy who can make me angry and horny at the same time.
- The hottest thing about last night was feeling you shoot your load inside me.
- I can still taste you.
- I want to be your lady on the streets and your freak between the sheets.
- I never thought I would meet someone that gets me so god dam aroused.
- I’m supposed to working, but all I can think about is you dominating me.
To talk dirty in a way that’s both confident and effective, there are four factors that you need to consider…
- The Context
- The Tone Of Your Voice
- The Speed Of Your Voice
- What You Do While Talking Dirty To Your Man
Imagine the following situation as an example: You are both lying in bed together, cuddling, looking into each others eyes…Your man then tells you, “I love you” for the first time. Now is absolutely the worst time to talk dirty to him. Imagine how disappointed he would be if your response was, “I can’t stop thinking about your cock.”
The context in the example above is a serious and vulnerable and special moment for both of you. Talking dirty is going to ruin the moment. I hope this is obvious.
Here’s a much better example: It’s a Saturday evening, and you’re both at home, fooling around on the sofa. While playing around, you look at your man with a cheeky grin and say, “If you don’t stop messing around, I’m going to grab my whip and teach you a lesson.”
The context is a fun and flirty one. Talking dirty here is only going to add to the fun.
Here’s another great example: You and your husband are both on vacation and have had a few drinks. You get back to your hotel or apartment, and you are both feeling super horny and totally uninhibited. Now is the perfect time to push him onto the bed and have your way with him. Telling him to, “keeping fucking me like that” or “I want to feel you orgasm inside me” or “you’re going to make me cum so hard.”
The point I’m trying to make with these examples is that YOU NEED TO TAILOR YOUR DIRTY TALK TO THE CONTEXT OR SITUATION for it to have maximum effect.
Next is getting your voice tone right. Many students are surprised that a large percentage of communication is non-verbal. In other words, only a small percentage of the power of talking dirty is the actual line itself. The rest is your voice tone and a few other factors that I’ll explain in a minute.
Getting your voice tone right will dramatically increase the power of your dirty talk to the point where you are literally hypnotizing your man with your voice.
Imagine using the following naughty dirty talk example on your man in a high pitched, excited-like-a-school-girl-at-a-pop-concert voice that, “I can’t wait to get you home.” Not only will your man be turned off, but he may also be a bit weirded out.
Now imagine telling him the same thing, “I can’t wait to get you home.” In a sultry, breathy voice that you whisper in his ear. Don’t be surprised if he demands to get you alone immediately!
The same applies when you’re in bed together and talking dirty. You could scream, “Fuck me harder” at him like your life depended on it. This is definitely going to turn him on AND make him pound you harder. But what if you said it with a flat, disinterested tone like you had mentally checked out of the situation? It would be a total turn off.
My point here is that some women think that all they need is the line, but smart women like you now know that your voice tone plays a vital role when talking dirty.
The speed of your voice also plays an important role when it comes to the non-verbal aspect of talking dirty.
So in bed, you’re naturally going to be talking quite fast if you are really enjoying yourself and are having some sweaty, steamy sex.
But if you’re having slow, passionate, loving sex, then it’s more natural to talk more slowly and lovingly.
If you are both out in public together, and you need to be discreet, the slower you whisper into your man’s ear, the better. Drawing it out over 10 seconds will blow your man away…here’s an example, “I’m…so…dam…horny right now…I…wish…I…had…you…inside…me.”
There are two rules you should follow for your voice speed when talking dirty.
- Only talk fast when you’re having really sweaty, filthy, nasty sex. The rest of the time speak very slowly.
- When I say slowly, I mean really slowly.
If you are sitting beside him on a plane and randomly whisper in his ear, “I’m so bummed that we’re on a plane, I really want to feel your lips on my pussy right now,” WITHOUT even touching him, it’s NOT going to be particularly effective.
Now imagine saying the same thing, “I’m so bummed that we’re on a plane, I really want to feel your lips on my pussy right now,” while slowly running your fingers up his inside leg. Then after saying it, you slowly pull back and make eye contact with him while smirking at him. It’s going to drive him haywire.
The point I’m trying to make here is that it’s not just the lines that will make you the queen of talking dirty. If you want to truly master talking dirty with your man, you also need to:
- Understand the context.
- Get your voice tone right.
- In most cases, slow the speed of your voice right down.
- Make sure to pay attention to what you’re doing while talking dirty.
- There is something so damn hot when you pin me down by my wrists.
- Hearing you groan, moan and shout when you cum is so fucking satisfying.
- Make me cum with your tongue.
- Tonight is all about me, so get down on your knees and put that tongue of yours to work.
- Feeling your seed drip down my leg was the perfect reminder of this morning.
- I’m going to need your services tonight, boy.
- Fuck me harder.
- I’ve never been fucked like that before.
- Did you take a course on how to make me cum?
- Tonight is all about making you cry with pleasure.
- I dreamt about you last night and woke up dripping wet, which was nice.
- I love when you’re rough with me.
- I’ve been a bad girl and deserve a spanking.
- Take your clothes off and get on your hands and knees. Right now!
- I wore this for you.
- Making you hard is my number one priority.
- I love seeing your bulge in your pants.
- I absolutely adore feeling you on top of me.
- I love holding your cock and feeling it get hard in my hands.
- I want you to handcuff me and fuck me any way you’d like.
- Do you like the fact that I think about you when I’m masturbating.
- Tonight I want to watch you jerk yourself off.
- I keep fantasizing about you grabbing me and having your way with me.
- I don’t want to be forward, but I need you now.
- Tonight you have a choice, anal or oral? Choose wisely.
- Just feeling your eyes on me makes me so wet.
- Take me right here.
- The plan for tonight is to be your personal sex doll.
- You bring out this animal in me, I love it!
- I want you to scream my name when you cum.
- Give me every last drop.
- Hearing you moan with pleasure turns me on so much.
- Make me your bitch!
- Punish me!
- Your cock belongs to me.
- Fuck my cunt!
- Suck my breasts.
- Tell me when you’re close.
- Slap my ass.
- Make me feel helpless.
- This pussy is yours, whenever you want it.
- You’re going to pass out with pleasure.
- Shut the fuck up and take your clothes off.
- I don’t normally do this, but you bring out this craziness in me.
- Bite me and mark me as yours.
- I want to feel your hands all over my body.
- Bend me over and spank me, I’ve been a really naughty girl.
- Pull my hair and treat me like an animal.
- I keep thinking about the first time you fucked me; it makes me so insanely horny.
- I want to feel you kiss my entire body.
- Is it weird that I just want you to use me tonight?
- Sex with you is like a drug, and I think I may be addicted.
- I want to feel your cock twitch inside me.
- Make me your bitch.
- Don’t ever stop fucking me.
- I want you to tie me up and have your way with me.
- Jesus-fucking-Christ you’re going to make me cum.
- I feel so small in your arms.
- I don’t think I could ever get bored of having sex with you.
- I love how your dick feels in my hands!
- There’s a few things that I really like about you; I hope you never stop doing them. – Perfect for keeping him thinking about you.
- I’ve got something I want to try on you later….I think you’ll like it!
- I wish we could just fuck forever.
- Dominate me like the slut I am!
One quick word of warning: If you suddenly start talking super dirty after two years of not doing it once, your man may get a little freaked out. It’s much better to start off with slightly tamer phrases and build up to the filthy stuff over time. Now here’s some nasty, dirty things to say to him:
- I need your cock!
- Fuck me hard.
- Deeper, Deeper, DEEPER! – Say it like your are commanding him.
- Just like that.
- Don’t stop.
- I love being your fuck slut.
- I think I’m in love with your dick.
- Holy shit, I’m cumming.
- I want to taste myself on your cock.
- Make me cum baby.
- I’m dripping wet.
- I’m about to explode.
- I’ve never been fucked like this before.
- You’re going to make me pass out with pleasure.
- I just wanna be your sex slut.
- Grab my hair and fuck me like a dog.
- I want to feel your cum all over my face.
- I want to feel you shoot your load in my mouth. .
- I’m going to jerk you off until I get every last drop out of you.
- Let’s spend the entire weekend together completely naked!
- Fuck me, fuck me!
- Pound me harder!
- I love you.
- You make me feel amazing baby.
- I feel tiny in your arms.
- That feels so good.
- I can’t believe I met you.
- Please, please, Please, PLEEAAAASSSSEEEEE… – Say it like you are almost begging him.
- Tonight is all about you.
- You like that baby?
- Mmmmmm, you taste so good.
- I want you so bad.
- I love your body – Say this as you are running your hands over his body.
- I wish we were at home, so I could do some terrible things to you.
- Why am I always so horny when there are other people around.
- I just want to rip your clothes off right now.
- If we weren’t at your friend’s house, I’d be on my knees with you in my mouth.
- I can’t believe we decided to go shopping when we could be at home fucking.
- I think going to the gym together was a bad idea, all I want to do is fuck you when I see you sweating like that.
- If you don’t stop looking at me like that, we’re going to to have to go somewhere private.
- You know I’m not wearing panties?
- I just want you to know I’m dripping wet.
- I need you to walk in front of me so I can see your ass.
- Don’t look at me like that when we’re here; it’s making me so fucking horny.
- You look really sexy when you wear that shirt/jeans/top.
- It’s so hot when you grab me in public.
- I can’t wait to get you home.
- I wore this skirt just for you.
- I’m so glad we’re alone because I’ve been having filthy thoughts all day.
- Do you know how wet I am right now?
- Would it be rude of me to start sucking your dick right now?
- I’m just going to rub your leg, let’s see how long it takes you to get hard.
- I’m thinking of a number between one and ten. If you can guess it, I’ll give you a blow job.
- Do you want to lie down for a bit?
- Can you help me with something in the bedroom. – Try sending this as a message when he’s downstairs and you’re already in bed.
- Now that we’re alone, I need to feel you inside me.
- I need you so bad right now.
- Why aren’t you here right now, I’m so fucking horny.
- I can’t concentrate at work. All I can think about is sucking your dick.
- My panties are soaked, get home quick.
- Last night was incredible. I can’t stop thinking about it.
- What do you want me to wear in bed tonight?
- I keep fantasizing about what I’m going to do to you later.
- I was thinking about you today.
- I’m going to give you the wettest blowjob tonight.
- Do you want to try anal with me?
- I love masturbating while talking to you, but what I really need is you, here, fucking me.
- I’m blushing just saying this, but I miss your dick so much.
- I wish I could just clone your dick, so I have something to remind me of you.
- Why can’t we just quit our jobs, live together and fuck all day, every day.
- I dreamt about you last night, and it was fantastic, but I woke up, and you weren’t here.
- I keep thinking about just quitting school/my job and coming to see you tonight.
- Lie down and shut up.
- Tonight is all about me.
- Take your clothes off and get into bed.
- On your knees, bitch.
- Tonight, I’m going to be inside YOU.
- I want to hear you say my name, say it bitch.
- Beg me.
- You’re going to get spanked until you cry.
- Your wish is my command.
- I just want to make you happy.
- I’ve been very bold and need to be punished.
- Pleasing you is my only purpose in life.
- Please fuck me, daddy.
- Can I give you a blow job, master?
- Thank you for fucking me.
- If I offered to cook for you in lingerie and heels what would you say?
Part 2: Sexy Text Messages To Keep Him Coming Back
Part 3: Sexy Dirty Questions To Ask Your Guy
Part 4: How To Have Hot Phone Sex